Troubleshooting

If you are unhappy with your situation, do not despair! There is an enormous amount of help out there for you.

What’s the problem?

I’m lonely. I want to find a partner but it never seems to work out for me.

If, after looking at our page about preparing yourself for a romantic relationship, you want someone to help you to get yourself on track, try getting in touch with a life coach or psychotherapist (What’s the difference?). You don’t necessarily have to commit yourself to any number of meetings in advance, just an initial assessment. You have got nothing to lose by contacting someone and a whole world to gain.

Here are a few suggestions:

Life Coach
Georgina Kirk is a friendly, supportive, effective life coach you can visit in Manchester or talk to on the telephone from anywhere in the UK.

Psychotherapists
If you live in or near Manchester, try Blue Sky Therapy. Ring 0161 215 2322.

If you live anywhere else in the UK, click on the link for a website where you can find a therapist near you. www.uktherapists.com

Reading
The Blue Sky site recommends lots of books to help you prepare yourself for a fulfilling relationship.

My marriage isn’t working for me.

If you want some help sorting out your relationship, try getting in touch with a counsellor or psychotherapist. It’s amazing how much they can help.

Here are a few suggestions:

Relate
What started out as marriage guidance has developed into relationship counselling. Relate is a long-established and widely respected organisation with branches nationwide.

Psychotherapists
You can see a therapist either individually or as a couple. Click on the link for a website where you can find a therapist near you. www.uktherapists.com

Reading
While reading may not necessarily be enough in itself, it can take you a long way to improving your relationship. We particularly recommend the following books:

	Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix A tremendous book of insights, with the power to transform your relationship. Click here to buy this now from Amazon.
	Receiving Love: Letting Yourself Be Loved Will Transform Your Relationship by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt Are you just not seeing how much your partner loves you? Or perhaps you approach each other in the wrong way. Find out how to bring down the barriers to love and happiness. Click here to buy this now from Amazon.
	The Big Book of Us by Nina Grunfeld A very accessible book, filled with useful information and exercises designed to help you gain a deeper understanding of each other. You don’t have to be experiencing problems in your relationship to benefit from this book; it will help you to avoid problems in the future. Click here to buy this now from Amazon.